Healer To Healer™

What to do when your client says, "I can't afford it"

If you've had a healing, coaching, medical, or counseling practice for a while, I'm sure you've heard a client say about coming back or taking the next step, "Sorry, I don't have the money for that right now."  It kills the conversation about future care instantly.  What do you do?

Recognize a few things:

(1)  It's not true.  If you promised them $1 million back to come up with that money, they could and they would.  Something else is up.  Something big and scary to them.  What to do about it:  Let go of your need to fix them.  Let go of your healer's ego that says you know better than they do.  Love and appreciate them for where they are in their journey and the intrinsic beauty of human coping mechanisms.  And bless them for helping you let go of one more tiny sliver of that ego.

(2)  They are uncomfortable with speaking their truth.  If they know the truth they don't want to share, claiming no money is their way of avoiding saying it, eg. "I don't want to do that."  "I don't really like you."  

Sometimes what they are trying to communicate is buried so deep they aren't aware of it.  Things like "I don't want to lose the benefits and attention I'm getting from having this condition."   or  "Really truly deeply healing scares the bejeebies out of me."  or  "I'm not sure life can get better and I'd rather give up than try and fail." 

In either case, what I find is helpful is to let go of my need to fix them.  Let go of my healer's ego that says I know better than they do.  Love and appreciate them for where they are in their journey and the intrinsic beauty of human coping mechanisms.  Bless them for this opportunity to get rid of one more sliver of my healer's ego.

(3)  This potentially frustrating exchange is a gift to you.  If you recognize stubbornness or fear or unwillingness to move forward in them, then you have some of your own in your life.  Take a look.  You can only perceive in the outer world that which you have in your inner self.  That's how energy works.  Take a good honest look, especially on those weeks when you have a FEW clients pulling this one on you, hmmm.  When you find this energy inside you, honor it and thank it for protecting you in its way.  Ask it to help you learn to cope consciously with the issue it's protecting you from.  When you do, your clients will stop exhibiting this tendency, too.  And that will be a very nice coincidence.

On top of that, you guessed it.  Let go of your need to fix your clients.  Let go of your healer's ego that says you know better than they do.  Love and appreciate them for where they are in their journey and the intrinsic beauty of human coping mechanisms.  And bless them for helping you let go of one more tiny sliver of that ego.

I love you.  Go heal.

More fun with multiple numbers EVERYWHERE

After much debate, I just signed up for a development program for my healer's group.  It was an issue of expense and progress vs. slow and steady by myself.  Finally I pushed the button, after checking for that "yes, yes, yes" feeling again.  It was still there. 

In the numbers on the receipt, I found meaning.  First, my email receipt came back with the time "10:31 pm", my birthday, and as I mentioned in the last post, always a "go Daria!" message from the Universe for me.  After stressing over the decision, I had a good chuckle over that one. 

Then the receipt itself listed the time as March (3) 22, 23:31:13.  (Must be on Eastern US time.)  I have to say, 322233113  is a pretty fun number!  Looking at the digits themselves, another layer of meaning says a new opportunity is opening, recently planted efforts are beginning to sprout and manifest in a huge way, and all the help I need is around me, cheering me on.

What messages are out there for you? 

Q&A: What does seeing double numbers mean?

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Question:  Daria, do you know what seeing double numbers all the time means?  I see 22,33,44,55 on clocks every time I look, this after seeing "11" for years.

Daria's Answer:   Isn't it fun?  I sometimes see 10:31 a few times a week.  We could spend hours looking up the meaning of these numbers from many sources, and analyzing when you saw them and what message they could be sending you at that moment, but I approach patterns like this differently.  (Daria different? No surprise there...)

Know this:  Nothing in your life is without meaning.  Nothing is random.  Nothing.  When something catches your conscious attention, it is resonating with an issue that's moving within you, or you wouldn't notice it.  Something that is growing, rising to your attention in other ways, shifting.  Coming or sometimes going.  Double numbers are noticeable.  Pairs all the time are really noticeable.

My question to you in a Healer to Healer™ coaching session would be:  what does it mean to YOU?  What do you think it means, even if you are so uncertain about your answer that you wanted to ask me?  I don't care what anyone else says those numbers mean.  Numerological or dream or animal dictionaries are great places to start learning meaning, but everything also has a unique meaning for you.  For instance, 1+0+3+1 = 5, which means life changes according to Doreen Virtue, but to me 10:31 is my birthday and feels like a little celebration of me from a higher place every time I see it.  So I pause to enjoy and appreciate that.

Your meaning may be similar or completely different from archetypal or symbolic meanings, and that's fine.  Ask yourself this:  What does seeing these numbers really mean to me?  Intuitively, I feel that it's a lovely message for you that you're someone special who can connect with the unseen, the other side.  When you see those double numbers, say "hello" back!  Perhaps sit for a moment and see if you can feel a guide or other beneficent being around you, or hear or feel words.  At any rate, smile and feel the meaning of the message for you.  Let me know how it goes!  db

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Fame or integrity: which is more important?

I'm feeling cryptic today, a fine time for a dose of Tao... 

        Fame or integrity: which is more important?
        Money or happiness: which is more valuable?
        Success or failure: which is more destructive?

        If you look to others for fulfillment,
           you will never truly be fulfilled.
        If your happiness depends on money,
           you will never be happy with yourself.

        Be content with what you have;
        rejoice in the way things are.
        When you realize that nothing is lacking,
        the whole world belongs to you!
                          --Lao Tzu

When you reach the knowing, usually by tough experiences, that you have everything you need within you and that you are already truly a master at what you do, then you will be able to make all you need appear in your life, too. 

If this is too cryptic, think of a time in your life when you utterly gave up or thought you had nothing, but then realized you had exactly what you needed all along.  Everything can be found even in nothing.  Don't give up -- keep showing up, hold your faith, and your dreams will come true.  ;)

Was it a spiritual message for me?

Today I had the great pleasure of interviewing for my book about the healer's journey a wonderful healer named Jennier Urezzio (http://www.KnowSoulsLanguage.net/).  She talked so beautifully about her healer's journey and how she came to recognize her spiritual support team, which she realized had been communicating with her all along.  Call them angels, guides, guardians, ancestors, nature spirits or what have you, all the guidance and help you need is right at your fingertips, healer!  Most of us just need to learn to "read" it, recognize it all around us, and allow it to have meaning. 

She shared a story about a stranger who sat down next to her when she was upset and said exactly the thing she needed to hear.  When we recognize these messages, they seem very purposeful, and they have deep meaning that can uplift you at just the right moment.  I remember riding the subway home after breaking up with a boyfriend, feeling distraught, when a group of four ragtag black men came into the car, straight over to me, asked me my name, and then sang me a beautiful song in harmony about how wonderful I was.  I knew it wasn't random, and I wish I'd had more than $10 on me.  I floated home.

Jennifer also briefly demonstrated her Soul's Language system.  She told me about one of the ways my soul expresses itself as me, Daria, in my personality, through the Soul's Language archetype she calls "The Carter".  This type of person has a message to share with the world, she says, programmed in every fiber of my being, coming through all I see, speak and do.  Oh, yeah, right on the nose there.  Even in the course of her chatting about this a short time, I could feel some part of me let go and relax as it became easier to allow myself to carry my message.  (This is the wonderful thing about hand analysis and other intuitive healing like this: the messages about who we are give us permission to be ourselves genuinely and can be tremendously healing!)  Thank you Jennifer!

Here's the rest of the story.  I ran out to the office store in Madison after our interview, and wanted to stop by the Target down there for one item.  Except my spiritual boosters were rooting for Walmart, which is the only big store back in our little town.  I don't like shopping there, especially for food, but I've been around the block enough to follow guidance when I hear it!  I went to Walmart. 

As I drove up, a car pulled out from a spot right by the building past where I usually park.  Walking in, I noticed a machine by the door selling our local newspaper, which I'd never noticed before.  My eyes drifted across the main headline -- and I stopped in my tracks.  Do you think this was a spiritual message for me?  Are you ready?  I kid you not, it said exactly this:

"Future Looks Bright, Carter Says"

Hey, healer, guess what?  Your future looks bright!  The Universe is made of Love and anything else is an illusion!  And you are already a master healer; you just have to allow yourself to be. 

I love you.  Go heal.