Healer To Healer™

Healing a wasp sting

Not 20 minutes into the yardwork today, one of our kids was stung on the inner arm by a wasp.  Crying and saying, "it hurts" over and over, she was gently guided by everyone into my office.  The area was already pink, about 2" (5cm) across.  A bright red dot marked the center. I went to work.

• 4 minutes later it "mostly didn't hurt" (only a little bit when she "thought about it on purpose").  A small welt had begun rising around the red dot.

• 7 minutes in, the welt had elongated and frozen at less than a 1/2" (1cm) across the long way.  The sting didn't hurt at all.

• 10 minutes in, the red dot in the center was gone.  You could see a tiny circle there, but it was all skin color. The welt had reduced, and the bigger red area was much paler.  Pain and trauma behind her, back outside she went.

I am so grateful for the possibilities of healing!  I feel for people who wouldn't believe this was possible, who would assume that a wasp sting would really hurt for a while.  This isn't the first sting that's all but disappeared inside 15 minutes for me as a healer, and I'm grateful for every disappearance.

Are you fully open to life's highest potential?  Where in your life are you making assumptions that limit your full enjoyment of life and its possibilities?  How can you let these go?

What is wellness, really?

Sticking out of the Target ad today in the Sunday paper was an insert titled, "Wellness for Less"

The first thing on the list?  OTC drugs.  Then air filters, jello, cookies, sugary yogurt and fish oil capsules.

Yes, on page 3 there were bicycles, weights, and walking sticks.  But what is the common meaning of "wellness"?  What does "health" mean to you?

Is it wellness to require chemicals (drugs, coffee, OJ, candy, sugary yogurt, herbs, vitamins) to feel better each day?

I can see both the "yes" argument (you are taking care of your current condition so you can be as active as possible) and the "no" argument (you are not digging down to heal the real cause of the imbalances that require these things).

One thing I've learned from 12 years as a practitioner and investigator of nonmedical healing methods is that the body always tends towards health.  So does the mind.  It is only when we attach to things -- ideas, foods, situations, emotions, people, coping mechanisms -- that the natural state of health fails.

Yet when we hang on to something, it's for the best reason:  because we believe it will help us or save us from something worse.  We mean well, but attachment causes all our troubles.  Every one.

Life is a spiritual journey.  Step #5 in the spiritual journey according to the Global Institute for Awakening is "Move Beyond Doubt".  Through education and trying things out in life, we each must discover that letting go is safer than hanging on to blockages.  We must learn to trust the natural cycles of life that pull us out of darkness back into light again like spring follows winter.  We must deeply know that when one door closes another has opened and we just have to find it.  And we must trust ourselves: our hearts, our feelings, our intuitions and gut instincts, and follow them.  We must practice these things daily.

True wellness requires regularly letting go of attachment and building faith in yourself and the workings of the Universe.  Regularly healing the past, overcoming fears, finding your value and place in the world, connecting with yourself and others. 

True wellness keeps you open to find the shortest road to recovery, the higher ground, and the easier way.  The more inner wellness you develop, the faster and easier you recover, find the easy way, rise to the occasion, and excel in life.  Your life will not be perfect, pain will still happen, but you will flip out of it faster and faster, more and more easily.

Here's to your wellness!  How can you do something to support your wellness right now?

P.S.  Yes, before you complain, I do recommend you take your medication according to your medical healer, and THEN work on healing the issue requiring it.

Who truly loves you on Valentine's Day?

Another Valentine's Day, another day of chocolates, roses, and love, love, love.  Are you with the person on this planet who loves you the most, in a mutually loving, respectful, nurturing, supportive, joyful relationship? 

Whether you already have all the attention, respect, and unconditional love you want, or you think there's nobody on the planet that has what you're looking for, I assure you:  there is ONE person in the world who will always be there for you, always... well, if you can find them (I'll tell you how in a sec). 

• This person loves you from the moment of your birth to the moment you leave the planet. 

• They support whatever you do with loud applause (no matter how mediocre YOU thought the results were).  Whatever you do is just peachy with them, because YOU did it.

• They love, respect and honor your personal preferences, eccentricities, scars, whims and tastes.  They love how you think.  Whatever or however you think.

• They love and appreciate every cell of your body, your shape, your attributes and your so-called 'flaws'.  They know you are beautiful and handsome and every adjective you want to be, no matter what anyone else says.

Intrigued?  I'll warn you now: The trick is finding this person.  Most of the clients I work with have lost track of him/her (as I had, too, sigh), but I'll help you find them right now.  Then it's up to you to invite them to play with you and declare their love.  To do this, you need to take a very honest and honoring look at yourself.  Do NOT look at yourself through others' eyes, which you've been doing your whole life! 

Ready?  Do you know who your biggest fan is?  It is YOU.  Now, now, no grumbling!  When you become your biggest fan, you open ALL doors to success and happiness (and charisma!)  I've seen it happen.  Unfortunately, we haven't been encouraged or taught how to love ourselves, to be our biggest fan.  We've been warned against it: "don't let that accomplishment go to your head" etc.  Many folks go to great lengths to cut themselves down and get in their own way.  They hate the image in the mirror (or a certain portion of it).  They sabotage their brilliance, stuck in fears about what others will think.  They think being bad is cool.

Silly them.  (Silly you!)

HOW CAN YOU allow yourself to love, honor, nurture and support yourself exactly the way you are?  Ask yourself this question right now.  You are a divine being, with a unique message to share with the world, based on exactly who you are and all your experiences.  And when you let this message out, it heals both you and the world.  There is NOTHING you need to fulfill your highest calling.  You are ready right now... because you are perfect, lovable, and delightful (OK, maybe a little cranky sometimes, but even that is cute).

So Happy Valentine's Day from the one person who loves and supports you the most: YOU.  ♥ ♥ ♥  How can you start to love yourself better today?

"Rise", a song and message from the mountains

This morning I was driving north in Tucson (I'm on a biz trip here), which takes you straight at the south face of the Santa Catalina mountains, an east-west wall of rock that rises suddenly from the city flats.  Layers of rosy raw granite cut across its face at angles steeper than 45 degrees, giving the range a peachy blush.  From closer up, you see it's dotted with midnight blue pockets of deep shadow from the striking crags and rock towers decorating the steep sides.  A dark green dusting of conifers on top gives way to a sparse sprinkling of lighter green cacti where they can catch, condensing suddently into a narrow, bright green ribbon at the very base, where civilization has staked its territory with automatic sprinkler systems.

How does a wall of rock rise so sharply like that, with the layers pointing up and to the east, I wondered. I mused my way thru imagining plates of rock pushing against each other to lift this massive wall.  Before long, I decided to ask the Universe my real question:  why are these mountains so grabbing my attention?  After hiking in the foothill canyons earlier this week, they seemed impossibly tall.  Impossibly high.

In my mind's eye, I saw/felt the flat Tucson plain.  Then these mountains rose up before me as if pulled up out of the flats on strings.  (No, this is not geologically accurate, but spiritually meaningful: read on.)  "Rise!" I heard.  "Rise to the glory of God!"  The feeling was electric and expansive.  I played with the phrase and it became a rhythmic song.  Rise, 2, 3, 4, Rise (1) to the (2 and) glory of (3-and-a/triplet) God (4).  After a few verses, "I choose to" popped in on the 2-3-4, and it grew into a song.

Can you feel it?  ...Rise. 

Raise yourself up. 

Raise yourself up to glorify your potential, to glorify the divine, Source, the source of your limitless potential.  How else can you fully honor all you can do and be?

Rise towards your potential. Rise, like a seedling naturally reaches to the sun.  Not just for the fun of it (though it should be lots of fun).  Not just for the money of it (though it should be plenty abundant), but simply because reaching to express your potential is how you can honor the divine and say, "Yes!"  "Yes, I can!"  "Yes, thank you for this glorious potential within me!"  "Yes!"

For me right now, as I journey to the desert southwest, my practice and business are hanging in a beautiful stillpoint.  I have a unique opportunity to significantly expand my ability to help healers, intuitives, and creatives with a huge connection to Source (a connection that can really knock you around if you don't know how to manage and honor it) so you can know and love who you are and do what you came here to do -- really well and easily.  Moving forward from this stillpoint feels really scary!  Though I also sense it is totally possible and appropriate.  This morning's insight from the mountains gives me an inspiring reason to leap forward, regardless of my fears and worries about logistics and expenses.  It gives me the healing gift of taking me beyond my choices so I can feel as if I already have expanded and upraised myself. My earlier concerns and worries feel like silly trifles before the glorious, skyward reach of the Santa Catalinas and the inspired feeling of potential they give me.

What expansive step are you afraid of right now?  You know your mind can think of the most brilliant reasons why not, but you don't have to believe those fear-based thoughts.  What does your heart say?  And would it glorify your Potential for you to step forward right now?  If so, then how can you do that?  What is the first step? 

I challenge you to do one thing today to move forward, to rise into your potential, toward the full glory of the divine within you and the full being that you are.  Rise like the mountains!

Are you still in "school", or are you dreaming your dream into being?

In your first decade or two, you likely learned the "school" method of living your Life.  In school, you are trained and guided by authorities, teachers and adults, who tell you what to do and when, and what to learn, think and believe.  Then they judge and correct your behavior.  Chances are, you were also told what kind of cookie-cutter person you were, what you should like and how you should feel, whether you liked it or not.  And you got used to needing to meet the approval of others.

But that was then, when others seemed to run your life.  This is now. 

You may not be fully aware that you still feel like what schoolkids are seen as:  incapable, inexperienced, and unknowledgable.  I know in my 20s, I was still operating on what I'd learned in my childhood: that I couldn't do anything right.  You likely have been trained to doubt yourself, your inner yearnings, intuitions and knowings.  But that doesn't mean they aren't real.  Artificially doubting yourself doesn't mean you are wrong.

I've seen healer after healer shut down their inner healer, stop listening to their intuition ("oh that was just a random thought", "nobody can talk to trees"), convince themselves their knowings must be wrong and their dreams are unattainable or ridiculous.  Are you, too, trying to live someone else's life because "creative, intuitive healer" was not on the list of official jobs in the school counselor's office, or on the list of acceptable behaviors in elementary school?

How can you, starting today, honor your feelings, intuitions and dreams for what some part of you knows they are: very, very real?

Healer, you came here with gifts to share with the world, gifts that have the power to change the world.  I know because I've lived it and seen it in my mentoring clients, that it's too common for you to doubt yourself because you feel so "different".  Well, not here are HealerToHealer.com!  You're one of us, now, and we all have big healing dreams and amazing intuitive and creative talents. 

I for one would love to hear your dreams!  Put them in a comment below.  And from now on, how can you let yourself dream them?  How can you shift back into hoping and dreaming like you did as a kid?  Your dreams can't come true until you know what they are, and you owe it to the Source of those dreams to have a good long look, and to share them with others.  Leave the "how" to Source.  There *IS* always a way.  YOU just have to hold the possibilities here on earth.

I love you.  Go heal.

Was it a spiritual message for me?

Today I had the great pleasure of interviewing for my book about the healer's journey a wonderful healer named Jennier Urezzio (http://www.KnowSoulsLanguage.net/).  She talked so beautifully about her healer's journey and how she came to recognize her spiritual support team, which she realized had been communicating with her all along.  Call them angels, guides, guardians, ancestors, nature spirits or what have you, all the guidance and help you need is right at your fingertips, healer!  Most of us just need to learn to "read" it, recognize it all around us, and allow it to have meaning. 

She shared a story about a stranger who sat down next to her when she was upset and said exactly the thing she needed to hear.  When we recognize these messages, they seem very purposeful, and they have deep meaning that can uplift you at just the right moment.  I remember riding the subway home after breaking up with a boyfriend, feeling distraught, when a group of four ragtag black men came into the car, straight over to me, asked me my name, and then sang me a beautiful song in harmony about how wonderful I was.  I knew it wasn't random, and I wish I'd had more than $10 on me.  I floated home.

Jennifer also briefly demonstrated her Soul's Language system.  She told me about one of the ways my soul expresses itself as me, Daria, in my personality, through the Soul's Language archetype she calls "The Carter".  This type of person has a message to share with the world, she says, programmed in every fiber of my being, coming through all I see, speak and do.  Oh, yeah, right on the nose there.  Even in the course of her chatting about this a short time, I could feel some part of me let go and relax as it became easier to allow myself to carry my message.  (This is the wonderful thing about hand analysis and other intuitive healing like this: the messages about who we are give us permission to be ourselves genuinely and can be tremendously healing!)  Thank you Jennifer!

Here's the rest of the story.  I ran out to the office store in Madison after our interview, and wanted to stop by the Target down there for one item.  Except my spiritual boosters were rooting for Walmart, which is the only big store back in our little town.  I don't like shopping there, especially for food, but I've been around the block enough to follow guidance when I hear it!  I went to Walmart. 

As I drove up, a car pulled out from a spot right by the building past where I usually park.  Walking in, I noticed a machine by the door selling our local newspaper, which I'd never noticed before.  My eyes drifted across the main headline -- and I stopped in my tracks.  Do you think this was a spiritual message for me?  Are you ready?  I kid you not, it said exactly this:

"Future Looks Bright, Carter Says"

Hey, healer, guess what?  Your future looks bright!  The Universe is made of Love and anything else is an illusion!  And you are already a master healer; you just have to allow yourself to be. 

I love you.  Go heal.

The secret of addictions, part II: bypassing them

We already know that those of us truly addicted to certain experiences don't get any satisfaction from them.  That's because they are not what we are really craving.  The use of addictions is either to numb us out to our longings, or an attempt to recreate them with the next-best thing. 

We are creatures of pleasure.  Pleasure, love and connection is our natural state.  We are spiritual beings of infinite love, the pleasure of God, yet we find ourselves imprisoned in a challenging physical existence and locked into the progress of time... at least that's how it feels.  So we long to be who we really are, majestic cocreators of infinite power and wisdom.  And we long to be connected to everything like we are at the level of our infinite true nature.

So we seek pleasure and love.  But empty pleasure doesn't work.  What we really want is this deep spiritual connection, not cheap imitations!

Go for the real thing.  The next time you feel the urge for your favorite crutch, give yourself 5 or 10 minutes for this exercise.  Sit quietly where you are safe and comfortable.  Let your body relax and ask yourself how you want to feel.  Comforted? Safe? Secure? What are you seeking in the substance or experience you just considered having?  You want to be truly loved as you are?  Respected?  Recognized?  Blessed?  Not hungry?  Wealthy?  Lucky?  Admired?  Loved?  And loved by whom or how exactly?

Then close your eyes and imagine it, fantasize it.  There are no restrictions in your imagination.  The mother who hated you can now love you tenderly and unconditionally.  The absent father is back home and just the way you want.  You can have anything you want.  Crawl up into the Hand of God and be safe, nurse on your mother's lap again, reunite with your dead friend or relative, create a different outcome, invent the romantic partner of your dreams.  But whatever you do, don't reinforce and strengthen your habitual turning towards your addiction.  Break that habit and soar beyond it. 

When I did this exercise years ago, it took me several tries before I realized I wanted to crawl up in my mommy's lap and nurse and be loved unconditionally.  After a couple more times, I was surprised to realize it was more than that: I just wanted to BE everything around me, that my connection to mother only reminded me of my connection to everything.  Interestingly, nursing puts both mother and child into an altered state, a state of connectivity with The All.  So I created my ideal mommy, crawled up into her adult-sized lap with her arms around me, and visualized blending with the entire Universe. 

It feels good to be whole again.  This is what you are seeking, and this is what you deserve and should have.  I recommend trying this exercise several times, and keep asking yourself "What's behind that? What do I really truly deeply crave?" until you get to the core.  If you do it enough (or add in snapping a rubberband on your wrist every time you think of indulging in your addiction), you can completely break your addictive thought habits. 

Let me know how this exercise goes for you.  I admire you for caring enough about yourself to try it.

The secret of addictions, part I

What's your secret addiction, healer?  Sugar?  Caffeine?  Ice cream late at night?  The standbys: sex, alcohol, smoking or ingesting chemicals...  Or perhaps: anger, control of others, or drama?

As healers, we feel particularly guilty about our addictions, telling ourselves we should know better. But, no.  It's time to forgive ourselves and look at our addictions as the spiritual quests they are, however misguided.  It's time to love ourselves and guide our quests properly, to where they can be satisfied and our deepest desires answered.

Studies have shown that addicts have a higher than average anticipation of satisfaction ahead of consumption, and a way-below-average satisfaction afterwards.  Sound about right to you?  No satisfaction, just want more...  My secret craving is refined sugar.  If I was Edmund in The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe, I too would have climbed up in the witch's sleigh for some turkish delight candy, in all likelihood. 

So I know: what you are seeking is not your favorite substance, but something even greater and more satisfying.  It's that something that feels missing in your everyday, seemingly troublesome physical life.  It's the missing something that drives many into mid-life crises or acting out.  Why not find it now and save yourself a lot of trouble?  Here's a clue:  Did you know some psychotropic drugs stimulate the same brain centers as states of deep meditation or spiritual awe do?  (Other substances simply suppress our misery.)

When you chase your addiction in circles, you are seeking one thing, and one thing only:  CONNECTION.  A safe connection that holds you, fills you with deep love and comfort, a connection to something greater than you within which you can relax all your defenses and be yourself. 

This drive is completely normal, for reasons I'll have to go into at another time.  Addictions and "bad habits" happen when you don't know how to find this connection, so you try all kinds of things that seem to feel good like what you are seeking, but don't work in the long run.

Next time, I'll share something you can do to help curb your addictions. 

In freedom, you heal

Healer to healer, soul to soul, from my channeling this morning:

You are.  Thou art.  You are so great a being, and you know it, too, on some level that may feel faraway to you now.  Your mind is uncomfortable with this idea of complete freedom.  You want to keep yourself small.

But of freedom you are and to freedom you shall return. 

In freedom we share, we be whole and be wholly our true selves.  In freedom, we can shift this planet into balance in a shorter time than you can imagine.  Freedom is within.  Onl y the shadows of our internal denial of freedom can be seen in the world around us.  Freedom flows [from our eternal selves] into a state of mind.  It is here and now, within and around you.  Choose to see it.  Focus on nothing else.  Allow, allow, allow.  For in freedom, you heal.

What are you afraid of?

I recently met someone who invariably asked, "So, what do you do?" 

(Healers, does this question make you cringe, too?)

I usually say I've been a healer for a decade and am now writing a book about healers and the healing path.  But most look at me skeptically and a little sadly, like I'm a little kid excited about a beautiful bubble that's destined to pop soon, and they are the knowing, skeptical, pragmatic adult.

Well, let 'em believe what they believe.  I choose to hang out with healers who understand the greater potential in this beautiful universe.

Think about this:  Most people who don't believe in frequency healing or any "woo-woo" stuff haven't investigated it.  They will cite articles from national news magazines or newspapers that "prove" it doesn't work, but that's the extent of their investigations.  (Somehow, that makes them experts in their eyes.)  Then they decide that I who have taken 1300+ hours of classes, practiced frequency healing for 10 years and seen innumerable cases of success with it... I'm just under a sad, temporary delusion. 

No, it doesn't make sense.  But don't let it bug you.  Have compassion.  That irrational behavior tells me that FEAR is afoot.  What are they afraid of?  Among other things, they are afraid of being wrong.

That's a fear I've let run my life, too, until a few years ago.  It's limiting, debilitating.  We are so afraid of humiliation, of making a mistake, of being wrong.  Don't ask me what we think will happen;  it's irrational.  This mere fear closes these nonbelievers off to the immense potential that can be had if only they expand their concept of life to include energy and the information it carries. 

Ironically, by avoiding what they see as a potential mistake, they make a big one in my eyes:  they close themselves off to possibility.

A friend of mine once channeled:  "There is no mnemonic for 'mistake'.  What you call a mistake is simply another path choice."  So true.  There is no reason for us to fear mistakes.  We learn so much from them.  And knowing humiliation allows us to find confidence, to center ourselves in our own tried-and-true beliefs.  It makes us more solid within, allows us to find our inner selves, our passions, and to live them fully.

What am I afraid of now?  If anything, it's the possibility of missing something wonderful.  So if you told me about a new healing method, I'd rather believe you, ask a lot of questions to see if it's like anything I know, and try it myself to see if there's anything to it.  The chances of winning are so much greater than the consequences of missing out if I stay stuck in my fear of being wrong.

So I don't let the nonbelievers stress me.  I bless them.  They make me stronger by helping me tell my story, even in the face of utter disbelief.  Stop banging your heads against these folks, who are often our beloved partners, family and friends.  Love them as they are, knowing but for the grace of God, there you would be too.  Seek out other healers for company and sanity.  Stay in your Truth.

Did that help?

(P.S.  Is it just me, or did the first two lines of this post rhyme?)

In Pain? Use it... while you can

Are you ever in pain?  Believe it or not, pain is a gift you can use.  For the last six weeks, I've been cranking on a huge project, using every minute I can, even playing hooky from church and staying up too late to get uninterrupted time.  Two days ago, I hit a wall.  I just couldn't write.  But I sat in front of my computer anyway, trying... typing a few sentences and then checking email, playing a game or other time wasters.  I was so miserable.  It was so hard to write.  But I kept banging my head against it.  (Hmmm...) 

Then yesterday I woke up with one of those headaches-with-nausea I can only sleep off. 

Spit.  My mind had missed something and now my body was screaming at me.  What can you do with pain?  USE IT.  If you can't let it go, then listen to it and USE it -- ASAP!

Pain carries a message.  Sit down immediately and find the benefit in it.  Oh, there is one, or you wouldn't have pain.  Keep searching, no matter how perverse the benefit is.  Then find another one.

Every painful or "negative" emotion or feeling or sensation we have carries a message for us.  To me, anger says: take action!  Physical pain says: stop moving so you can heal!  A lack of joy says: pay attention to your inner heart song! 

My headache said: TAKE A BREAK YOU IDIOT.

The benefit was that I could stop working, lie down, and nap.  OK, no more late nights, check.  I had been working harder and harder and getting less and less yield.  My love project was now drudgery.    I was so emotionally miserable and now I could really feel it. 

My healing work failed me this time.  So after a good nap, I took myself out for tea and a cookie at my favorite coffeeshop, put my feet up, and wrote down every thought I could that was causing me pain.  Here are the biggies:
1. Writing is too hard
2. This project is too big for me
3. I want to have fun (outside of writing)

Then I applied Byron Katie's "Work".  Find the outline at  <http://www.thework.com/thework.asp>  I LOVE her work and HIGHLY recommend her books (on the book sidebar to the right, page 2 & 3).  This woman is as enlightened as The Buddha, and she'll show you how to get there too.  Most of our fears and those killer woulda/shoulda/couldas are based on misunderstandings and erroneous thoughts; when you examine these thoughts, you see right through them and they fall away.  The sun comes out again.  She has a great method for doing this.

An hour later, I'd gotten it.  I realized none of my statements were true.  Instead, the opposites, buried in my pain, were more true.  I had been confused about what was causing pain.  And I felt so much better now!  Check this out:

1. False:  Writing is too hard.  True:  NOT writing is too hard.  (I LOVE to write, but I've been too fried and I miss the fun I have with it.)  Also true: I'm too hard (on myself).  I wasn't letting myself have the time off I needed.

2. False:  This project is too big.  True:  My ego is too big. (Making me a slave? I don't deserve that.  What project on earth is worth causing pain to a human being?)  Also true:  This project is too small. I am a divine being of Light so much greater than any project.

3.  False:  I want to have fun outside of writing.  True:  I want to have fun WRITING.  I LOVE it!  Also true:  I can't have fun WITHOUT writing this project.  I would be miserable.  (And I was.)

Today I feel great.  And I've been having fun writing! I just love happy endings, don't you? 

Now, here's a catch.  The funny thing about pain is that it's not actually necessary any more.  We are entering an age of dharma, not karma.  The news for healers is that we are working up to a time when we can just end our karma, cut it off, let go of experiencing pain and disease, and just focus on being our full potential selves.  This is in fact what I help people do in my practice: spiritually evolve.  It's magical!  But once in a while I still get stuck, too, and I know from experience that there is always a way out.  When a problem is born, so is its solution: you just have to find it.  Yesterday, I worked the old-fashioned way.

What is causing you pain?  What are you doing about it?  How can you work through its source?